Hi Tari Sista!
Are you currently single and have to deal with question like “When are you getting married?”? Or are you actually in a relationship but feel like there is no point in rushing? Bikini Tari founder, Lissy sat with Nadia Nathania sometime ago and had discussion on goals, relationships and how to build confident. Read her inspiring thoughts below:
Pic credits to @nadianathania
Hi! My name is Nadia Nathania. I’m 24 years old. I currently run my family business. Our company is called Mitra Office and we focus on business supplies and office equipments - and I am in charge of the business development and marketing.
And I am really blessed that I have been exposed to different cultures and have lived in a few different countries including Malaysia that has shaped my vision how women should be empowered to dream and should be given freedom to execute them. I am now back in Surabaya, Indonesia with a mission to inspire other women.
WHAT ARE YOUR GOALS/DREAMS?
I believe everyone is born with a purpose and my mission is to use my life, my career journey to inspire other women especially to be yourself, to dream and to achieve whatever they want to achieve! In Surabaya, it's still very common to see marriage as the only thing that makes a woman successful and I want this to change. Women should think beyond that. But if you want to marry and take care of your family, that’s okay, too. Life should be YOUR choice.
HOW DO YOU INCORPORATE THESE GOALS INTO YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA PRESENCE?
I strive to post engaging content only. I know 7k followers on social media can be nothing to most influencers. But even as it is, I am glad that my voice is still heard by a certain segment of people on social media. I want them to see their happiness as a priority and more importantly not to follow the group or norm in Surabaya that they ought to get married before the age of 25 and having babies even when they are not ready financially, biologically, and so on so forth (But that depends on the person too!). You know, there are differences on the attention and care given by moms who are ready and not. I know it’s not easy to deviate from the group thinking, but I want these women and girls to see that it is worth the effort.
HOW DO YOU ANSWER THIS MOST COMMON QUESTION, “WHEN ARE YOU GETTING MARRIED”?
Marriage is like teamwork as if my future husband is Batman and I am Robin, I am enjoying my time to find my Batman. No point in rushing. I want to be whole when I enter a marriage, to be the best example I can be for my children, encourage them to go all out, live life to the fullest and never gives up on their dreams. I want to be able to tell them better ways doing so.
Pic credits to @nadianathania
WHAT INSPIRED YOU TO DO WHAT YOU ARE DOING RIGHT NOW?
I try to see myself in the future affecting life positively. I see myself as a role model to women and girls in Surabaya. I always get goosebumps whenever I imagine myself creating a community where I can inspire these women, and they inspire me too. There are moments when people will walk up to me and say “ I am able to achieve this because of you inspire me to. I did not give up... ” This inspires me to keep going.
TELL US ABOUT YOUR INSECURITIES AND HOW YOU HANDLE THEM
Most times, I feel I am not good enough. And that I am doing the wrong thing instead. I handle such feelings by taking a deep breath and saying to myself “I am good enough and I am awesome.”
DO YOU THINK THAT CONFIDENCE IS A VIRTUE THAT CAN BE BUILT AND IMPROVED? WHAT SHOULD OTHER GIRLS DO TO INCREASE THEIR CONFIDENCE LEVEL?
Yes! Through accumulated experience, or if not - join a program to improve yourself! Self development programs are really BIG in Southeast Asia these days. Life is all about learning, and no one is an island of knowledge. And if you are an introvert, learn it from YouTube or read books. Here are my recommendations:
1. Start With Why - Simon Sinek
2. Mindset - Dr. Carol Dweck
3. 7 Habits of Highly Effective People - Stephen Covey
4. Secrets of a Millionaire’s Mind - T Harv Eker
5. The Secret - Rhonda Byrne
Hear more from Nadia by following her Instagram
Bikini Tari is a created to inspire women to be more strong and confident, to support and inspire each other #tarisista. If you or know anyone who would like to share their story (lifestyle, travel, positive belief etc), please do email us at firstname.lastname@example.org. We would love to hear and publish their stories